You probably work hard, whether for yourself, your boss, or your clients, recognizing the value of put in the effort when the goal is financial independence.

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It's hard to stop yourself from checking for those messages because they come through on a random basis, Uzzi says.

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That's what we're fighting for -- that fundamental promise that no matter who you are, or how you started out, if you work hard you can build a decent life for yourself and an even better life for your kids.

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Trying too hard to differentiate yourself could get you noticed for the wrong reasons.

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The fundamental promise that no matter who you are or how you started out, that if you work hard, you can build a decent life for yourself and an even better life for your kids.

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"The take-away from the research (is) that if you are a parent or want to become a parent, understand what you are getting yourself into and be prepared for a lot of hard work, sweat and tears -- even under the best of conditions, " she said.

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Likewise, if you strive to complete a number of math problems in a designated amount of time, you'll do a better job than if you try for a lower number or you just tell yourself to work hard.

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Instead of being hard on yourself (see tip 4), head to an outlet mall and buy some forgiving clothes for this stage of life.

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For employers who are having a hard time managing a friend, Shepard, the management consultant, suggests asking yourself this: How would I handle the situation if the employee wasn't a friend?

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