我理解你的感觉，关于你自己的家庭的不快乐和未解决的问题，但是我再次请求你检查为什么这意味著你不可以找到与你自己的孩子在一起的快乐？
I understand that you have feelings of unhappiness and unresolved issues with your own family but, again, I ask you to examine why that means that you cannot find happiness with your own children?
“有感觉，感觉到，找到了”的技术可能有用：“我理解你的感受。”
The 'feel, felt, found' technique may be useful: 'I understand how you feel.
A：我能理解，不过你要是休息一会儿的话会感觉好点的，哪怕只是一小会儿。
A: I understand that, but you'd feel better if you took a break, even for just a short while.
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