我告诉她，我将离开很长一段时间，如果她无法忍受，如果孩子们不停地问问题，如果它伤害太多，她能忘记我，我会明白。

I told her that I was going to be away a long time, and that if she couldn't stand it, if the kids kept asking questions, if it hurt too much, well, she could just forget me, I'd understand.

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它往往代表了一种防御机制，我们下意识地用它用来保护自己在听到拒绝时不受伤害。或者把它用作一种消除不适感的方法，免得感觉自己要求太多。

'It can often be a defense mechanism subconsciously used to shield ourselves from the rejection of hearing "no" or a way to avoid the discomfort of feeling like we're asking for too much.

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