你不能老想着不在场的球员，你要想的是还在场上的。

You can't dwell on who's not here. You have to dwell on who is here.

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If Freud's argument for death, that is to say, none of us believe we're going to die, was any good, the argument that none of us believe meetings ever take place without us would have to work as well.

如果弗洛伊德对死亡的说法，也就是，人都不相信自己会死的说法是正确的，那么就是说没有人相信,自己不在场的会议举行这件事也是正确的。

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