我们享有很多共同的记忆，一个接一个，当我们哭着，笑着并且回顾一个人一生中积极的一面时，这样做确实能帮助我们应付失去这个对我们而言很特殊的一个人时的那种悲痛心情，这也确实能让我们这些处于悲痛之中的人相互靠近。
We share memory after memory, as we laugh, cry, and think back about what was positive in a person's life. Yes, it does help us cope with the grief of losing someone that was special to us.
许多案例中，母亲一面对自己的女儿变本加厉，一面让记忆中的痛苦最小化，这样让她们更容易对自己的女儿提出更严格的要求。
In many cases, they magnified the rigor of their own upbringing and minimized the discomfort they remembered, so that it was easy for them to make even more severe demands on their daughters.
如果我们真的想纪念这些人，就应该缅怀他们真实的一面，就如我父亲记忆中那样。
And if we wish to truly honor these men, we should remember them the way they really were, the way my dad remembered them.
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