The very first thing is to disengage and allow some time for both of you to simmer down and reflect.

第一件事就是放开并给彼此一些时间来平息和思考。

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Combine miso, sake, mirin, and sugar in a small saucepan. Bring just to a boil, dial down the heat and simmer gently for about 20 minutes, or until it thickens a bit.

将味噌、清酒、味醂和糖同放一个小锅里，煮至刚开，小火焖煮大约20分钟，或煮到销稠即可。

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When it start to boil, turn down the heat and let the sauce simmer.

逐渐沸腾时，关小炉火，以文火慢慢煨调味酱。

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Such remarks are common these days as the 45-year-old seeks to simmer down the buzz about his political future even as his travel schedule suggests he has clear national aspirations, perhaps as early as 2016.

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It automatically turns the heat down to a simmer temperature once the pan begins to boil.

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They point out that one cause of the new competition is that bookmakers were allowed to set up in Tattersalls, the big-money ring on courses, without serving an apprenticeship in the quids-and-dollars Silver Ring: when these neophytes come to a sticky end, competition will simmer down.

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