This may be a puzzlement to those around you because most of the time you are so self-restrained and in perfect control.

这对你周围的人来说，可能会很不解，因为你大部分时候都非常地自制跟处在完美控制下。

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Understanding, which can be considered as patience and as a kind of self? Restrained behavior, is needed in every part of our lives.

理解被认为是一种宽容，同时它也是一种自律，世界的任何地方都需要理解。

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With his going there is one great reason the less for self-restraint among those naturally inclined to be self-restrained.

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