When I meet someone I think I might like to know better, my secret is to share something about myself that is both personal and maybe a little embarrassing or self-deprecating (I often tell people that Iamdivorced.) That tends to spark their curiosity and open them up.
You were loved, still are in so many ways, however deep down Iam a divorced man approaching 40 and feel that getting a younger, sexier version of you is my right.