When you are aware of how little the grudge you are holding has to do with your partner and how much it has to do with you, it's that much easier to release it.

当你察觉到你的怨恨跟你的伴侣关系多小，和你自己关系多大的时候，你会更容易放下怨恨。

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You surely don't grudge her her success?

她获得成功，你没有不以为然吧？

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An external hacker is probably an expert in security attacks, but might not have any particular grudge against you.

外部黑客也许是安全性攻击方面的专家，但是他们对您可能没有攻击动机。

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But if you've got your pals around, the two player grudge match can offer some real laughs.

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