Feeling overwhelmed and frustrated makes them overly focus on their own violated needs and sense of hurt and ignore their partners'.

过度的绝望和沮丧使得他们过分把注意力放在自己不寻常的需要上，从而感到受伤，忽视同伴的感受。

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After cleaning up the mess they continue with their lives, shaking off the feeling of being violated.

清理烂摊子后，他们继续他们的生活，摆脱被侵犯的感觉。

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