How can you learn to experience your life if you are so busy trying to either get outside approval or be like everyone else?

如果忙于获得外界的认可或者像其他人一样生活，你怎么能学习到经验呢？

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If you don't, this will be like trying to cut down a redwood tree with a herring (your skills being the herring).

如果您不知道怎样做，那么这就像是企图用鲱鱼来砍倒红杉树(而您的技能就是那条鲱鱼)。

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Go to people in the group you are trying to reach and ask how they would like to be approached.

接近这些你想争取的群体，并询问它们喜欢什么样的交流方式。

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Ms. AMY HANSON (Teacher, Northwestern High School): She's done a good job of trying to convey, like, we have all these changes because we're trying to be a better school, not because, you know, we're like trying to do this mean thing or like ruin your career.

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So I've been, you know, going to church, you know, just trying to be calm, you know, trying to stay out of the spotlight and stuff like that.

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Some of you may be trying to learn new skills that could lead to a new job, like Mike, or a job that pays more, gives you more opportunity.

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