我甚至不确定“放手”和“心理调试”意味着什么，我只希望在思考、谈论他的时候，不再感到焦虑，难以抑制的悲伤或不安。

I'm not even sure I know what "letting go" or "coming to terms with" means. All I know is that I want to be able to think about him and talk about him without feeling anxious, incredibly sad or upset.

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倾向于抑制或“忘记”悲伤事件，或者扭曲记忆中的悲伤事件使之难以辨认。

Tends to repress or "forget" distressing events, or distort memories of distressing events beyond recognition. 152.

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