因此我的问题是，为什么我们不索求我们需要的东西呢？

So my question is, why don't we ask for the things that we need?

youdao

当我们确定我们到底是谁我们想要什么，就不会对那些本来可以帮助自己得到想要的东西的人索求，粗鲁，野心重重，或者试图控制他们。

When we can be honest about who we are and what we want, there is no need to demand, be rude or aggressive, or manipulate others that are involved in helping us get what we want.

youdao

如果对方谈论的东西是你不知道的，那就告诉对方并索求解释。

If someone is talking about something you don't understand, speak up and ask for an explanation.

youdao