我理解你的感觉，关于你自己的家庭的不快乐和未解决的问题，但是我再次请求你检查为什么这意味著你不可以找到与你自己的孩子在一起的快乐？

I understand that you have feelings of unhappiness and unresolved issues with your own family but, again, I ask you to examine why that means that you cannot find happiness with your own children?

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再有这样的情况，你可以说：“我有个问题…”具体描述一下打扰你的这一行为，这会使你找到争论的细节并将其迅速地解决。

Next time, say: "I have a problem with..." Describe the bothersome behavior in a precise way, which allows you to get to the nuance of the fight, and settle it quickly.

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一位建筑工人曾经告诉我，你买房子的时候，检查一下房子的地基是非常重要的。因为你可以解决大部分问题，但是如果地基不稳的话，最终你就只能推倒重建了。

A builder once told me that when you buy a house, it's important to check the foundations: you can fix most problems, but if the foundation is unstable, you may end up having to start from scratch.

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