但是如果你同时也奖励好的行为，做到宽容，有耐心以及对他们有合理的期望的话，时间一长，你就会看到孩子们好的转变。

It may not have an immediate effect, but combined with rewarding good behaviour, tolerance, patience and realistic expectations, you'll see a change for the better over time.

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托德：好，你小时候，老师们对你严厉吗？如果你失败了，他们会让你知道你失败了吗？

Todd: Right, so do you actually … When you were younger did you have teachers who werevery strict? So if you failed, they let you know you failed?

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如果你对大人们说：“我看到一幢用玫瑰色的砖盖成的漂亮的房子，它的窗户上有天竺葵，屋顶上还有鸽子……”他们怎么也想象不出这种房子有多么好。

If you were to say to the grown-ups: "I saw a beautiful house made of rosy brick, with geraniums in the Windows and doves on the roof," they would not be able to get any idea of that house at all.

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