现在，每当我听到朋友失去亲人，我不再打电话礼貌地提出“如果有什么我能做的……”相反，我试图想出一个特定的适合那人需要的任务，如带狗去寄宿养犬处，或在葬礼时看房子。

Now whenever I hear of a friend who's lost a loved one, I no longer call with the polite offer, "If there's anything I can do…" Instead I try to think of one specific task that suits that man's need, like taking the dog to the boarding kennel, or house sitting during the funeral.

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我们不需要向亲密的朋友解释什么。

We need not explain anything to our very good friends.

youdao

你的朋友真正需要的是什么？

What does your friend really need?

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