The reason you don't want to approach that new person and get to know them is because your EGO is taking you over and you brain is coming up with excuses of why you shouldn't talk to that new person.

你不愿意接近并且了解陌生人，是因为你心里对自己说不应该和陌生人交谈，然后大脑开始为这个理由找借口。

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When you feel a gnawing sense of loss or despair in relation to being a Course student, it is because the ego slithered its way into becoming your study partner.

若你在修习《奇迹课程》时感到痛苦的失落和沮丧，一定是小我已经溜进来，假扮成你的学习夥伴了。

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So this kind of case can escalate, and unfortunately I don't think enough consideration is given to the human side of individuals' ego, individuals' sense of self-respect, because I think if you respected people and talked to them in a respectful way, you can de-escalate many of these situations that ultimately escalate out of control.

NPR: Black And Blue: Police And Minorities