“我感觉自己可以帮助人们，”她喝着咖啡回忆道。
"I felt like I could help people," she recalled over coffee.
你也可以抓一本过期的时尚杂志，然后问问自己哪些能让我感觉很棒，哪些不能。
You can also just grab an old fashioned journal and ask yourself what made me feel great today, what did not.
我在本文中分享了其中一些，你就可以为之做好准备。如果自己碰到这些问题，感觉不会那么糟——它们本来就很普遍。
I share a few of them in this article so that you can be prepared for them or, perhaps, not feel too bad that you are experiencing them yourself - they are common.
我认为人们通过匿名隐藏自己的身份，使他们感觉像藏身紧闭的门后，可以言无所忌。
… I think people hide behind anonymity and they feel like they can say whatever they want behind closed doors.
打个比方，在倾听过程中，你可以用“我觉得有点不舒服”来灵活的表达自己的感受，这样，倾诉者就不会感觉到自己的失落。
You share your feelings tactfully, so the other person won't feel put down.
我可以做我想做的任何事，感觉自己就像是自己农场的老板。
我睡在枕头上这样说，这时自己可以感觉到太阳穴处冒出了两只角。
I say that lying on my pillow and I can feel the horns sprouting from my temples.
我理解你的感觉，关于你自己的家庭的不快乐和未解决的问题，但是我再次请求你检查为什么这意味著你不可以找到与你自己的孩子在一起的快乐？
I understand that you have feelings of unhappiness and unresolved issues with your own family but, again, I ask you to examine why that means that you cannot find happiness with your own children?
“我可以感觉到，他们用自己的眼光衡量我，”刘说。
"I could sense that they were measuring me with their eyes," said Liu.
说到我自己，令我感到这一点的其中一个缘由就是，我写的故事本身正经历着可以感觉得到的转换。
Speaking for myself, one of the reasons I feel this so strongly is the fact that the fiction I write is itself undergoing a perceptible transformation.
我愿意以某种方式感觉一下愤怒的袭来，我知道如何对待它，可以通过房间。也可能是整幢房屋渲泻一下自己的怒气。
I would feel a sudden uprising of anger so strong the only way I knew how to deal with it was to make a quick exit - from the room and probably from the house.
我很久以来都没有继续冥想是因为我从未感觉到我可以使自己的内心保持平和。
For a long time I stopped meditating because I never felt that I could get my mind to stay quiet.
我做志愿者是因为我想感觉到自己可以付出有意义的行为。
I volunteer because I need to feel I can take meaningful action.
我刚刚提到大多数的特质是可以培养的东西，但我不认为它们自己就能培养奇异的感觉。
Most of the qualities I've mentioned are things that can be cultivated, but I don't think it works to cultivate strangeness.
我可以教你们一些具体的做法，然而，最有效的方法让孩子们自己拿主意，并且注意观察孩子们对每一次的选择都有什么感觉以及他们的选择会使别人有怎样的看法。
There are some specific ways that I teach, however the most powerful way is to allow our children to make choices based on how each choice makes them feel and how their choice will make others feel.
我很幸福也很热情，我做了很多事，跑了很多地方，我可以感觉到自己心脏在跳动，我感觉到自己的美丽。
And I was happy and hot and accomplishing a lot and running around, and I could feel my heart beating, and I felt beautiful.
今天我坐在帐篷外，脸上早已没有了妆容，头发干枯，感觉自己像个小矮人，皮肤像鳄鱼一样粗糙，眉毛乱得可以藏进一台拖拉机。
Today I sit outside my tent, makeup long gone and hair fried, with feet like a hobbit, the skin of an alligator and eyebrows you could lose a tractor in.
我感觉自己可以在网球和学业、家庭以及朋友之间掌握很好的平衡。
I think I had a great balance between tennis, school work and spending time with my family and friends.
像“你怎么总是这么鲁莽”这类的话会使孩子们感觉他们无法在自己冲动的时候控制自己，但是更好的评价可以是这样的“你对你弟弟的态度确实过分了，可是我相信你不是有意要冲他发脾气打他的。”
Comments like "You always work yourself up into such a frenzy!" will make kids feel like they have no control over their outbursts. A better statement is, "You were really mad at your brother.
孤单的感觉在那一刻消失得无影无踪，我知道自己有了新朋友——可以一起跑步的伙伴。
Loneliness vanished as I suddenly had more than just new friends — I had running partners.
后记：我一直相信，有种东西可以帮助那些不能完全控制自己思想的人获得快乐的感觉。
Postscript Note: I have always believed that there are carve-outs to this rule for people with mental illnesses who don’t completely control their minds.
我很喜欢射击，可以让我在受到伤害时保护自己，或者我只是喜欢在正中靶心取得好成绩的时候所感到的开心的感觉。
I enjoy shooting because I can protect myself if any harm comes, or I can just have fun shooting and feel good when I hit the 10 or get a good score.
从Scheck教授在APA会议上的报告中，我可以感觉到他对委托人的关切，和对自己的使命的坚定信念。
You could tell from Professor Scheck's lecture at the APA meeting that he CARES deeply about his clients and believes strongly in his mission.
我可以有意识地选择作出什么决定和做我们感觉适合自己的事情。
I can choose consciously what decisions to make and do what I feel is right for me.
但是我可以无视自己的感觉吗？
但告诉自己，挺三天就可以了，三天后事情自然变得容易，你会适应新的生活，而没有感觉说我被剥夺吃饭的权利。
But just tell yourself that it's just for 3 days. After that, it will start to get easier.
我开始理解什么可以让我使自己不再去感觉自己像是一个受害者，而现在我可以让自己变得更加强壮和健康。
I am beginning to understand which allows me to not feel like a victim and can now allow me to get stronger and healthier.
当你不小心说“我不能”的时候，要马上提醒自己，反以“我可以”取代之，然后看看你对自己有什么不同的想法和感觉。
Catch yourself saying, "I can't", when you don't really mean it and instead try, "I can", and see how you think and feel about yourself.
也许你的感觉并不正确，但是至少可以给你增强信心，让你知道自己应该如何完成录音，这样，到了我要录音的那天，我就不会无所适从了。
You could be wrong, but at least within myself it gave me a feeling of confidence as to how I wanted to do that record, so when it came to the day of recording I wasn't swimming.
也许你的感觉并不正确，但是至少可以给你增强信心，让你知道自己应该如何完成录音，这样，到了我要录音的那天，我就不会无所适从了。
You could be wrong, but at least within myself it gave me a feeling of confidence as to how I wanted to do that record, so when it came to the day of recording I wasn't swimming.
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